Love Language of Marriage 009

9. We got married because I was pregnant and now I feel like I have made a big mistake. Can I get a divorce or do I have to stick it out? If so, where do I start?

Your assumption seems to be that you have only two alternatives: stay in the marriage and be miserable the rest of your life, or divorce and be happy. I suggest that there is a third alternative which offers far more hope: work to build a successful marriage. Many people get into marriage in less than ideal circumstances, and yours was pregnancy. For others it was drug dependency, emotional dependency, dreams of getting out of a bad home situation, misguided romantic feelings, and any number of other factors. Getting off to a rocky start or getting married for the wrong reasons does not mean that you cannot have a good marriage.

Any couple can build a successful marriage if they will seek God’s help. God will bring healing to past failures, and supply hope for the future. The Scriptures lay down the principles for building a godly marriage. Christian books based on Scripture can be extremely helpful. Christian pastors and counselors are also available. Use the resources God has provided and yours can become the marriage you always wanted. See The Five Love Languages for practical help in learning how to love each other.

Thank you,

Monique Velasquez