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14. My husband/wife is emotionally abusive. My friends are all telling me not to stay. When is it okay to leave?

Emotional abuse, which is often the result of verbal abuse, seldom goes away with the passing of time. Neither is the problem solved by simply leaving your spouse. You need a plan and support system to help you take constructive steps of tough love. My book Desperate Marriages is written for people who are in difficult marriages. The theme is helping you to be a positive change agent in such a marriage. Tough love may eventually require a temporary separation, but this should be done as a therapeutic move, not as an act of abandonment. Such a step should never be taken without the guidance of a Christian counselor or pastor. Don’t try to do this on your own. Reach out for the help of those who are professionally trained and have had experience in helping others in such marriages.’

Thank you ,

Monique Velasquez