Love Language of Marriage 0010

10. How can I get her/him to have sex more often and make sure we both enjoy it?

Finding mutual sexual fulfillment is a process. It does not happen automatically. God told ancient Israel to take the first year of marriage and learn to pleasure each other (Deut. 24:5). One of the best ways to learn is to expose yourself to good information. I suggest that the two of you read one chapter per week in the book The Gift of Sex by Clifford and Joyce Penner. At the end of the week, discuss the ideas presented in the chapter. The goal is to understand male and female sexuality, and to discover how to pleasure each other sexually.

Your attitude should always be one of love, looking out for each other’s pleasure. Share your desires with each other, but never force any sexual expression on your spouse. How often your spouse desires sex will be influenced by how you treat him/her. Open communication in an atmosphere of love will lead to mutual sexual fulfillment.

Thank you,

Monique Velasquez