Marriage worksheet 006

Six Steps to Help a Couple Improve Marriage Satisfaction © 2016 Connected Marriage Step 6: Build Intimacy Prior to leading a marriage seminar, we sometimes do a pre-survey to determine areas of interest. There are three topics that usually lead: communication, conflict management and physical intimacy. And yet, when we get to the sex topic it seems like this is something that can be difficult for many couples to talk about. Why is it that we have a difficult time talking about sex with the person with which we are the most emotionally intimate? Provide a Safe Environment Your role as a mentor may simply be providing a safe environment where that couple can talk about their needs, their wants, what’s working and how they might want to increase the intimacy in the bedroom. The couple sets the pace on what they are comfortable speaking with about with you. Areas of challenge include:  Inviting God into the bedroom  Differing ways to be “in the mood”.  Using sex to feel close vs. feeling close to have sex  Comfort in talking about sex  Frequency of sex Questions to ask:  Is there anything that you would change in your ability to talk to each other about physical intimacy?  What prevents you from sharing your likes and dislikes with your spouse?  What would make it easier to talk about what you like and dislike?  Is there anything that you wish to change in the frequency of your love making?  How often do you feel under pressure to perform?  How often do you feel rejected

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Monique Velasquez