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1 Six Steps to Help a Couple Improve Marriage Satisfaction © 2016 Connected Marriage You Can Have an Impact! The first time we met with a couple one-on-one they were in a really bad place and it was difficult to get that couple to start to communicate in a way that wasn’t criticism, contempt, defensiveness or just shutting down and stonewalling. We felt overwhelmed and we walked out of the meeting wondering if we helped in any way. Since then, we have learned to stick to the principles of creating a safe environment and applying the key concepts that we know will work. When we train new mentors, I think back to that first meeting and recall our feelings. If you feel a little nervous, overwhelmed or intimidated, I understand. Bill Doherty is a well-known psychologist at the University of Minnesota. He’s said that when he sees couples that are struggling they first need support from support people, mentors, other couples in their lives. Then, marriage educators. Then, they need mental health professionals. In that order. Lay people we can have a big impact! The purpose of 6 Steps to Help a Couple is to give you a quick overview of areas where you can have a big impact. These six areas represent a proven path to marriage health.

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Monique Velasquez